I give DH time when he comes home. Purely because my DH works hard. He starts early so he can be home quicker. When the babies were small he would help out when he came straight home. We both work and sometimes he'll get home before me, pick up the kids go to the shop and start cooking before I even walk in the door. We both share parenting because they are both our children. He doesn't really bring his work home and so because of that neither do I. My job has been a lot harder physically than his but his is more mentally draining so he still needs that wind down time. He is pretty hands on and we have over the years taken turns in the engagement. I was on kinder ad school committees for about 5 years so when I started working and could no longer do it he became a cub scout leader so he could then continue with the engagement within our children's lives that I had.

We are very strict about making time for each other and I think this helps us both. He often says if he didn't help out I would be spending less time with him, let alone him missing out on his children.

I think you have been given some good advice, but I think regardless of what we all do it's whether or not you are happy that matters. I have friends whose homelife is very different to mine but they are extremely happy. I would t be and they wouldn't be with ours. It's ultimately what works for you. Good luck.